Glen, those are the ones that didn’t get enough praises when they were kids, and onto adulthood at work, is all. I’ve run into that stuff all my life.
i wanna tell a story on your tread here, as an example of why people act like they do, if you don’t mind, to prove my theory that it all stems from their time as a kid:
Back in 2010 I applied for the position to be the new field superintendent for the shop I worked for. At the time I was a field foreman, which I enjoyed, but in past jobs when opportunity came to climb the ladder of life I always jumped on those, and always won the position. I figured why not? So I applied, and during the interview I found out that I would be delegated more tasks and responsibilities, but my pay scale would remain the same. Ha! Without officially saying I declined my application for this position, the interviewers could see I was not only not interested, but disgusted with their offer. Thought it was ridiculous.
Anyway, the old superintendent, who was an interviewer, called me two days later to let me know a guy named Eddy got it instead, and not me. I said, okay, thanks anyway. I knew Ed, and although he was an intelligent and skillful individual, he was not the rest of the staffs favorite in that shop. He had some idiosyncrasies that I won’t get into.
so, here’s where this story leads up to a kids upbringing- He calls me that afternoon at quitting time, and I’m on my way home. Here’s the conversation-
Me: hello, Ed. What’s up?
Ed: well, did you hear the news?
Me: what news(I was rolling my eyes, cause I knew what was coming up next)
Ed: I’m the new superintendent! Yeah! What do you think about that?
Me: what do you mean what do I think about that?! Congratulations, Ed.....???
Ed: yeah, that’s right. Are you okay with the decisions of the hiring panel?
At that point, I asked him this question:
Me: can I ask you a question, Ed? Did you play competitive sports in school at all?
Ed: well, no. Why do you ask that?
Me: yeah, I didn’t think so. My point is, when the winning team wins a game, and goes to shake the losing teams hand, they don’t ask them how they felt about losing. You get it?
i think he got all but hurt, cause he quickly told me he had an incoming call he had to take.
so, you see, Glem, it’s all in the upbringing. These guys wanting the atta boys didn’t get that pat in the shoulder enough, lol
